LOVE & LEADERSHIP
" love is not how you feel about others, it is about how you behave toward others"
" The act of extending yourself for others by identifying and meeting their legitimate needs"
~ The Servant by James Hunter ~
Showing self-Control. Creating a safe place for people to learn and make mistakes. Hold people accountable and when there are gaps, keep the discussion/discipline about performance unemotional. The word discipline comes from the same root as disciple, which means to teach or to train.
"Charity Suffereth Long" having or showing patience in spite of troubles, especially those caused by other people.
Giving attention, appreciation, and encouragement. Listen actively and be fully present with a person. requires discipline, effort, and sacrifice to extend ourselves. Block out our personal concerns and the rest of the world to see things as the other person sees and feels them.
Charity "is kind and envieth not." Being friendly, generous, and considerate. Does not feel discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck.
Be authentic and without pretense or arrogance. "Not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." Be real. Be authentic and discard false masks. Be teachable and open to learning and change.
"charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up." Does not brag or call attention to their self. Does not seek personal glory.
Treat others as important people (VIP's). Be willing to extend yourself for those you lead. Provide accurate feedback based on real behavior. Have a sincere desire to contribute through providing your best. Challenging others to grow and improve and helping them do it.
Charity "seeketh not her own".
Meeting the needs of others, even if it means sacrificing your own needs and wants. Meet needs not wants.
Give up resentment when wronged. People are not perfect and will let you down. Don't pretend that bad things didn't happen rather practice assertive behavior (not passive or aggressive) Be open, honest, and direct but be respectful.
Be free from deception and dedicated to truth. Do not communicate with the intent to deceive others. not speaking up or withholding truth is deceptive. Clarify expectations and hold people accountable.
Sticking to your choices. True commitment is a vision about individual and group growth along with continuous improvement. Passion for people and the team, helping/leading them to be the best they can be.
Service and Sacrifice
Setting aside your own wants and needs; seeking the greatest good for others.
A year or so ago I read an article by Dan Cable about Humble Leadership on the HBR website . I loved what I read. I printed it and it has followed me around. Now it is sitting on my desk again, and I want to capture some of the key points from the article.
"By focusing too much on control and end goals, and not enough on their people, leaders are making it more difficult to achieve their own desired outcomes."
"help people feel purposeful, motivated, and energized so they can bring their best selves to work."
"Adopt the humble mind-set of a servant leader. Servant leaders view their key role as serving employees as they explore and grow, providing tangible and emotional support as they do so."
"servant-leaders have the humility, courage, and insight to admit that they can benefit from the expertise of others who have less power than them. They actively seek the ideas and unique contributions of the employees that they serve."
"Servant leadership emphasize that the responsibility of a leader is to increase the ownership, autonomy, and responsibility of followers -- to encourage them to think for themselves and try out their own ideas."
"Rather than telling employees how to do their jobs better, start by asking them how you can help them do their jobs better."
"Instead of nit-picking problems, each manager was trained to simply ask...How can I help you deliver excellent service?"
"Employees who do the actual work of your organization often know better than you how to do a great job. Respecting their ideas, and encouraging them to try new approaches to improve work, encourages employees to bring more of themselves to work."
"Sometimes the best way for leaders to serve employees - and their organization - is to create a low-risk space for employees to experiment with their ideas. By doing so, leaders encourage employees to push on the boundaries of what they already know."
"consistency and willingness to help convinced employees who were skeptical"
"When leaders are humble, show respect, and ask how they can serve employees as they improve the organization, the outcomes can be outstanding.
"servant leaders get to act like better human beings."